Loves Train

“What are we doing, are we just going through the motions of a dying love affair?

We are two people riding the same train but with different destinations”.

Looking back it might not be so hard to understand how you ended up here.

It is what it is

It is what it is. At least that’s what I’ve heard people say. But is it really though?

It’s funny in a sense. Life takes some amazing and some not so amazing twist and turns.   

It throws you for loops, riding the adventures of the highs and the lows.

Do you sometimes get the feeling that there always seem to be more lows than highs.

To use a couple of analogies- it might feel like you are always just trying to keep your head above water.  And what happens if neither of you know how to swim?

Eventually you both drown in an emotional pool of despair.

Second, it’s like riding one of those mechanical bulls, it starts out nice and easy and you start to feel like yeah I got this. Then it speeds up jerks and pulls you so vigorously until you go flying off and landing on your ass.

Either way makes for life’s difficulties.

Time spent is time lost

We spend so much time trying to do damage control our senses and sensitivity become numb to one another. And there you have it. Numb to one another. We forget to take care of ourselves individually thus making it almost impossible to take care each other. But why you ask?

Because we are too involved with caring for everybody else.

Our children, family members and friends, these though loving as they can be at times are obstacles not so easy to navigate.

We seek relief not in each other but temporary escapes like our phones, social media, outside activities, sleep and sometimes out right isolation.

Outside looking in

Outside we are operating in what appears normal fashion to the eyes that are upon us.

Inside we are desperately seeking comfort but too afraid to share our feelings out of fear and insecurities. No one wants to be seen as vulnerable.

Vulnerability is an incapacitating enemy. Making us prisoners in our own emotions.

We have quietly built up a wall that we think will protect us from revealing our weaknesses.

If we only trusted in what we have and stand to gain instead of fearing what we think we might lose.

So here you are acting like two strangers on the same train, seeing one another everyday but to reserve in your feelings to say hello.

Ties that bind

Somehow you have to find a way to get through all of the ties that once bound you together but in essence pulled you emotionally apart. You must to find your way back to one another through the cornerstones of your foundation. The foundation that love should have been built on.

Faith- Trust -Honesty and Respect.

It may need some re-pouring and patchwork but by putting in the work you will indeed arrive at the same destination.

It is what you make it to be.

Written By: Larry D. Miller